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Monday, July 17, 2006

Dating and Relating

I read this article today on dating and relating. Immediately, it hit all my buttons. "Gameplaying is exciting," she says, "it spices up the relationship." Not even.

First, after reading this article I was happy to note that I am NOT single. If I had to gameplay to keep an adult male friend, I would be friendless and alone. I heard all of those reasons in the 1970's and 1980's about why gameplaying was so necessary. I was told that a girl would have more fun and more dates if she 1) let the guy win, 2) didn't call back immediately, or 3) practiced the aloof look. Golly, it worked for my sisters, but it did NOT work for me.

I did all the wrong things. I enjoyed my life. I showed my true colors. I had few dates, but when I met my husband, who is in the above picture, he was stunned by my brilliance.

If your goal is to have many dates and eventually marry anyone, then by all means gameplay. BUT if you want to eventually meet your true match, I suggest that you show yourself. Be yourself. Enjoy the ride.

You know, I have been married thirteen years to this man. Two of my sisters are on second marriages.

9 comments:

Rebecca said...

Awesome. Truly. Gameplaying is only for those who get more out of the chase than an actual relationship.

Cynthia E. Bagley said...

Rebecca.. Yes, you say it so simply and so well.

:-)

I have to natter on for about a page. LOL

Chana said...

applause, applause...here, here...with you totally...it's sad to think of how many girls and boys for that matter, read junk like this and have not idea how wrong it is to imitate or expect...

Cynthia E. Bagley said...

yes, Chana...

I do not like the "play with your emotion" crowd. Not a good habit to get into--

Belle said...

Hi Cynthia,

Agreed. Totally.

chiefbiscuit said...

Hi Cyn - I'm back and catching up ... Love the photo of you - so pretty. Glad to see you've made progress with Scrambled Sage on Toast - I am interested in that and hope to partake once i can see my way clear around here.
BTW you are sooo right about the game playing.

Cynthia E. Bagley said...

Belle... Thank you..

Chiefb.. good to see you again. How are things? I guess you have been very busy. When you get ready to post, I'll be here. :-)

Pam in Tucson said...

I totally agree - no games. We've been married 49 years come Thursday - it works :)

Cynthia E. Bagley said...

Pam.. thanks for coming by.. WOW 49 years. Congratulations.