I read this article today on dating and relating. Immediately, it hit all my buttons. "Gameplaying is exciting," she says, "it spices up the relationship." Not even.
First, after reading this article I was happy to note that I am NOT single. If I had to gameplay to keep an adult male friend, I would be friendless and alone. I heard all of those reasons in the 1970's and 1980's about why gameplaying was so necessary. I was told that a girl would have more fun and more dates if she 1) let the guy win, 2) didn't call back immediately, or 3) practiced the aloof look. Golly, it worked for my sisters, but it did NOT work for me.
I did all the wrong things. I enjoyed my life. I showed my true colors. I had few dates, but when I met my husband, who is in the above picture, he was stunned by my brilliance.
If your goal is to have many dates and eventually marry anyone, then by all means gameplay. BUT if you want to eventually meet your true match, I suggest that you show yourself. Be yourself. Enjoy the ride.
You know, I have been married thirteen years to this man. Two of my sisters are on second marriages.